Tuesday, October 09, 2007

family

Well,this is the Christopher Family blog which is about our family and how we go about getting our family. I don't have anything really profound to say tonight except that I am still okay with the wait. Michael and I celebrated our 6th anniversary last weekend.
Please stay with me, its going to get a bit random. I started thinking about how I looked at other families. I remember meeting couples years ago who had been married 10 years and didn't have children. I remember thinking, "Gosh, I cant imagine that. I have to have a baby before then." I really thought that would be a horrible thing (rest assured I dont think that way now). Now, look at us. It looks like it will be close to that when we have our family. We have so many friends now that have waited even longer than we have for a family and they have been such an encouragement. I do want us to be the best parents we can be and I want the best for our children. I pondered about that today and just had to have a moment with God and share my desires with Him. We would love 2 children. I would love 2 children. I would love a biological baby. I don't have to have these, its just the way I dreamed about things. Is that bad to admit? As I was talking to God this morning, I just simply asked him to grant the desires of my heart, but I know it may not be the way I have planned all my life. We do want a biological child but after many years I can say that I will be satisfied if that does not happen. It feels good to be at peace with things.

This may come across so the wrong way and maybe I should not publish this post but I no longer feel like I have to have a family the old fashioned way. The one thing that has been shown to me during this process is that God's timing for our lives is so much better than mine and then we are waiting God is using that time to prepare us, to show us things, to even change us in some way. I forget that sometimes. I get impatient. I am looking forward to my family. I will say that sometimes I get scared that things will not happen. I think that everyone has those thoughts and I need to admit them sometimes. Then I rethink the promises God has given me and I feel so reassured.

Anyway, these are my (Amy) thoughts and feelings. Many of you I consider good friends and many of you whether you want to or not are considered my mentors. I am thankful for all of you.
I can't wait to share more about the Christopher family.

10 comments:

Anonymous said...

Amy and Michael,
It was 25 years before we had our first child -- our others were teenagers and only one live with us for brief periods. I prayed for friends, for community and I got adoption.

Before we left for China (vacation 2005), I talked with a close friend who is a priest and prayed for these things. It was during that trip that the possibility of fulfilling our our heart's desire was revealed.

Adoption therefore filled our heart's true desires and answered my prayers for family, friends and community.

BaBa

amy said...

Its amazing how things are answered. I prayed for the same things and amazed at how my heart has changed over the past year. You and Kim and have been amazing friends and role models to us and to that I am thankful

Joanne said...

Hi, thanks for all the nice comments on my blog ~ thanks for following us along to China! Your blog is great and I wanted to leave a comment, especially on the "family" post: boy, can I relate to your feelings, as I'm sure many can! I remember the doubts and questions, but when I listened to my heart I found peace. It isn't easy - this wait - but you will have the daughter that is meant for YOU ~ I can say that from experience ~ amazing :)

Joanne said...

Hi, thanks for all the nice comments on my blog ~ thanks for following us along to China! Your blog is great and I wanted to leave a comment, especially on the "family" post: boy, can I relate to your feelings, as I'm sure many can! I remember the doubts and questions, but when I listened to my heart I found peace. It isn't easy - this wait - but you will have the daughter that is meant for YOU ~ I can say that from experience ~ amazing :)

CJ and Donna said...

Glad you feel comfortable enough to share your thoughts and feelings with us. I am sure alot of others share your same feelings. You too are a mentor to others :)

Doris & Dan said...

A long time ago I gave up the idea of biological kids & just knew and prayed for a family no matter how it came to be.

Keep smilin!

Michaela said...
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Michaela said...

Michaela said...
We were married for 15 years before we had our first child. I believe, everything happens for a reason. We had to wait because God wanted us to have the best son ever. Now we have to wait for the best daughter ever (okay,I am bias). I think it's wonderful your faith is so strong!
Take care,
Micha
LID: 05/24/06

Laura said...

Amy -- the peace that comes with accepting God's plan for your life is truly liberating!

Tymm and I know realize that a biological child is not what He has planned for us, and once we accepted that, we felt like a huge weight had been lifted off our shoulders.

Choosing to adopt is so special to us. It actually makes feel closer to my Savior...since He adopted us!!

Many hugs to you, Amy...I know how you feel.

Laura

Alyson & Ford said...

Amen!
Children come from all sorts of places.... ask for children and they may not be "biological". I will love them all the same.

Alyson
LID 01/27/06