Saturday, April 11, 2009

LynnMarie has had a good week with many visitors. We still don't have a routine yet! She is doing great and loves to have her bottle, loves bath time and loves people! We are working on attachment and bonding with mom and dad, so we are limiting hugs and holds for a while until she is attached to us. I know this is hard for the Grandmas, but she has to learn we are mom and dad!

She has had a good time with Grandma L and we are thankful she was here when Dad got sick. Michael spent almost 48 hours in the hospital getting IV fluids and blood. HE was dehydrated and anemic. He was sent home and we are hoping for answers too.

As much as I do not want anyone watching LM right now, it was a blessing she was here. Shout out to my other friends who took LM for the whole day so I could visit Dad. It was hard but I am so thankful for a rockin support system..

More updates soon. Please continue to pray for Michael. Please also understand that the not holding thing is not personal. We have spent 2 years reading about attachment and talking to friends and we are doing what his best for our daughter. Once we get past this, I promise you can squeeze her all you want. Please respect our decision!!





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11 comments:

The 5 Powell's said...

I think you'll be pleasantly surprised at how quickly she'll bond (and know you're mommy!)....but just make sure it's done before I come home! CUZ dude, I'm getting some lovin' from that baby girl! Heeheee!! (no rush - no plans yet!)

redmaryjanes said...

She is just darling! I'm so glad to hear that Michael is home and will keep you all in my prayers.

Anonymous said...

get over your bad selves and throw Spock out the window--aint no way in hell you are gonna keep me away from my sweet Baboo!!Honor that!!

The Evans Family said...

How sweet Lynnmarie is! Don't you worry, she knows who her Mommy and Daddy are!
I'm sorry to hear about Michael, prayers are being said.

Sally- That Girl! said...

Amy, I am so glad to see you are doing all the things to make sure you ensure proper attachment with your precious child. What I tell people is that I may be totally wrong and off base, but if I am not I only have one shot at this. I don't get a retry. Also what does it hurt just to have the two most important people in her world being totally and completely devoted to her for a while? Unlike our bio kiddos, she has NEVER experienced this not even in the best of orphanages or foster homes! I know it is hard because people who have not adopted do not understand. It is a BTDT scenario! And every child through adoption is different! Go with your gut! Keep up the good work!

Mommy Spice said...

We did the EXACT same thing when bonding with Spicy Girl. Our social worker said that if someone else holds her, and she reaches back for us, to take her immediately. We had to explain to the grandparents that this is all part of the attachment process, and that we weren't spoiling her. You hold to your guns. Lov'in the pictures!!

Anonymous said...

Amy,
So glad that Michael is home and feeling better. We will continue to pray that he gets rest and peace.
I think you are doing the right thing with the holding issue. Stick to your guns, and don't let anyone bully you. Praying for you!
Alycia

Jeff said...

I'm sorry to hear that they still haven't figured out what's causing Michael such grief. I hope he gets over it soon so he can get back to some Daddy's-Little-Girl-bonding with LynnMarie.

Kiy said...

I also hope Michael is doing better, and that you have answers soon.

We also kept family and friends to a minimum, and holding only by us the first few months we were home. It was the best decision we made as we know beyond a shadow of a doubt that Emi is firmly bonded. Those that ignore this, I hope you have some written material you can point them to. It really isn't personal, and yes, it's hard for some not living adoption, attachment and bonding to understand. But you know what's right for your little gal and I am impressed that you are doing it! Go Mom! Go Dad! (Yeah, can you tell we took some grief over it? haha)

Cheers, thinking of you guys,

Kiy

RamblingMother said...

Praying for you all!

Michele S. said...

We also kept the visitors to a minimum and those that did allow to visit, were not allowed to hold K. I know, for us, especially adopting an older child, that we did what we needed to do. Stick to your guns, although hard, I agree you are doing what needs to be done.